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According to this article, my three-year-old son is "resistant to potty training." That is putting it mildly -- he was getting so good, and then in the past month or so he's gotten worse than he ever was. So, my question is do steps like the ones outlined in that article work? It almost seems counter-intuitive.

For reference, here are the major bullet points:

  1. Transfer all responsibility to your child.
  2. Stop all reminders about using the toilet.
  3. Give incentives for using the toilet.
  4. Give stars for using the toilet.
  5. Make the potty chair convenient.
  6. Diapers, Pull-ups, or underwear? (use underwear).
  7. Remind your child to change his clothes if he wets or soils himself.
  8. Don't punish or criticize your child for accidents.
  9. Ask the preschool or day care staff to use the same strategy.

I feel like my wife and I have tried some of the things on this list. I know we've done 3,4,5,6 and 9 is a no-brainer (school needs to cooperate here).

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Anticipation is the key for the child to experience successful use of all modern plumbing has to offer. Anticipating the need to go is a viceral thing that has to do with the sensation of wetness and the associations around that sensation. The book I read was how to potty train your child in a day. I did it with both my girls and was a bit of a celebrity for getting the system to work. I am not sure it needs to be a elaborate as the book described (use of a doll that actually simulates urination), but for us the key was making the child aware of dry vs. wet clothes. This is, in part, why it is essential to get rid of the diapers, they are amazingly dry and comfortable feeling because of modern technology. So we gave alot of praise for dry clothes pretty heavily and pretty frequently for about a week leading up to the training day. This included as many people, real or imaginary, that we could think of either calling on the phone, visiting or just being referenced by us. For example: Does Megatron have dry pants? Yes, yes he does. He likes dry pants. He would be very proud of you with your dry pants. We actually had quite a bit of fun with it. We did the other side of the coin too, but not to heavily. For example: Grandma doesn't like wet pants, let's get some dry pants on, OK? Good that's better dry pants feel good, don't they?

I wish you the best of luck.

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