I'm a child and not a parent. I don't understand what to do in the situation I'm describing below.
I have both my parents and a brother.
It all started a 2 years back.
2 years back we were all living a happy life, understanding each other and obviously loving each other. Smiling at each other. Most importantly I used to share everything with my parents.
It was my 10th standard with I joined a tuition class nearby. That Aunty who taught us was (is) a wonderful and a helpful person and so I used to stay after class for about 10-15 minutes daily discussing the new things which I found out in maths (she taught us maths) while hoping to get some more facts regarding that topic. I constantly told my parents how awesome she was*. My parents then decided to visit her place once for the praise.
*but at times I also told that her teaching style didn't suite me well, we never had discussions in her class. Which I don't think was the reason behind my parents' visit, because I praised more.
I don't know what happened that day at her place. But I soon released that it wasn't a good meeting, when my mother asked me: why I disturbed her after classes and tried to "teach" her? Soon after my mother started thinking that I wanted to "show off" my knowledge in front of her*. I must say, I really had no intentions of doing this. So I started leaving the class before everyone else.
*It took me about a week to completely realise what my mom was actually asking me, obviously she didn't ask me this directly.
After that incident I don't feel comfortable in sharing anything with my mother, since my mother started blaming me for everything that happened in my life, it felt as if suddenly everyone else became ideal humans for her.
This distancing increased when I became busy studying for JEE. I really conversed very less with her, I and my dad both were interested in tech and science we both talked a lot about latest things happening around the globe.
Probably my mom started thinking that I didn't want to talk to her. This I feel has made her irritate on tiny mistakes of mine.
To add more trouble: my brother is really a smart child, he knows very well how to escape situations* and very good at fooling others. At times I shout at him mainly to make him close doors behind him, to wash his hands and legs properly after playing in the mud (my parents are not bothered much about this but he really comes out of the bathroom in just a few seconds, obviously without touching soup). This shouting triggers response at the other corner of the house and my mother comes running and then starts shouting on me without having a look at his mistakes).
*He initiates the fight and then escapes by doing what I wanted him to do since the beginning, and hence giving my mother a reason to shout at me: "don't you have patience?". I'm sure that if the situation would not have turned this serious my brother would never listen to me.
Today I had another serious verbal fight with my parents regarding my brother's irritating actions and his uncleanliness. I think my dad understands what is going on and so every time he controls the situation by making my mother quite without telling me anything, this obviously irritates my mother. My mother, today told that even the maid working at our neighbour's house has a better life than hers because she is the one who has to listen to my dad.
I believe that the meeting with my teacher has made my mother look at me with a foul vision. My mother now always tries to find my faults*. And our relation is now not so good. Now, I try to avoid interactions with her.
*to such a limit that it made her think that I have so much of attitude that I couldn't ask for another roti myself during dinners. While watching TV with my father and brother, I really didn't see how much of roti is remaining in my plate and so didn't bother to ask for more roti(s). I was so engrossed in watching television that I actually didn't concentrate on eating, and quietly picked up rotis being placed on the dining table.
There have been numerous verbal fights between me and my brother, and hence There have been quite a lot of incidents when my dad has controlled my mother without telling anything to me.
Of course there some more factors which have led to this situation, like to avoid talking to my mother I started watching TV during dinners, earlier we used to discuss what had happened that day.
I am now feeling as if I'm not living with my own family, there is no love, no laughing, no jokes shared. Everyone is very "serious" now. No one smiling. There is an imaginary boundary separating us now. We're becoming robots now.
Is there anything I could do now? Ps: I cried while writing this