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My son is 20 months old and I have started potty training him. He has been interested in the toilet for a month or two. He will pee and poop whenever I sit him on there, but still won't let me know when he goes when he isn't on the toilet. I let him either run naked or put his big boy underwear on, but he stil won't let me know when he's soiled himself. What do I do to help him tell me? He will say "pee pee" after he goes in the toilet so I know he knows he's going...

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any luck with the training? We are experiencing similar problems Thanks in advance – Lila Jul 25 '15 at 4:46

I think you should wait a bit. Ideally, your child should come to see you right after soiling his diaper to get it changed.

We tried very hard to potty-train my second daughter, but it only worked when she would come see us to get a diaper when she was naked and needed to pee. Before that moment, she wasn't ready. That was at about 30 months old, by the way.

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Twenty months is quite young to expect a child to be potty trained. It will happen when he's physiologically and developmentally ready, and there's not a lot you can do to move it forward, and good reasons not to try: frustration and icky messes on your part, tears and shame on his part, and a lot of conflict between you two to no purpose. If it isn't working, he's just not ready.

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