My almost-three year old has the strangest love/hate relationship with thunder and lightning. He will often react with fear when he sees lightning or hears thunder, and will talk about "I am scared of thunder", "I don't want there to be thunder", etc.; but then when we walk out into a thunderstorm, or look out the window, he will be incredibly fascinated and say "I love thunder", "Daddy can I see more lightning" (when there is not some for a while), etc.
Will it be helpful to him overcoming his fear of thunder (which often means sleeping in our bed at night when there are bad storms) to encourage the 'love' side of things (I tried taking him outside during the last one, which included some small hail, and he loved it and was sad when the hail stopped)? Or am I making it more likely for him to have nightmares about thunder?
Intuitively it seems like it should help to give positive associations, but he also had very significant negative reactions that night (as bad or worse than before). I realize things don't change overnight, but I don't want to be making things worse.