I have a three year old son who is just awesome. He is advanced intellectually, loving, and he seems very empathetic. He does extremely well in daycare (it is at least an above average daycare), and most of the time at home at well. However, there are times when he becomes - for lack of a better word - unreachable. He'll start climbing on his mothers head; run around the room; throw things; etc - and all this would be tolerable to some extent if:
- There was any way at all of getting him to listen.
- He responded to requests to stop.
- His behavior was not accompanied with what sounds like maniacal laughter.
A typical episode plays out something like this:
- He starts being disruptive beyond what I will tolerate.
- I go through various stages of firmness in disciplining him as his behavior continually worsens.
- I threaten him with the loss of something (I always keep my promises) to no avail.
- Eventually I take him to his room. I stand outside holding the door as he tries to get out (he doesn't know I am holding it).
- He starts throwing anything that has weight at the door or kicking the door or opening and slamming his trifold closet door.
- Eventually I realize that unless I intervene, his room / stuff / body will be damaged and I go in the room.
- Usually I still haven't lost my temper (but I'm getting close), and I go in. I sit on his bed with him, and hold him as gently as I can while attempting to keep him somewhat still (I hate this and it seems wrong but I see no alternative) while he alternates between laughing and crying hysterically to let him go, "you're hurting me" (I'm not), and if I let him go, well - one time I said 'if I let you go, are you going to hit me?' He looked at me with a twinkle in his eye and said, 'Yes!' (I regret to say I was not able to stop myself from laughing)...
This all continues for a long time until he gives up sort of - and I do my very best to have him get why he was put in his room in the first place and that daddy loves him and is not mad and it is not ok to do x, etc.
And his behavior has greatly improved in many aspects - until he becomes unreachable. Whatever happens over their with him when he is in that space seems beyond my powers to interrupt.
Any suggestions for having this become workable?