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I have a 2 year old daughter and I am currently living with a roommate that also has a 2 year old daughter.

My roommates daughter is constantly bullying my daughter by pulling her hair, biting, hitting, taking toys, pushing her down and throwing things at her; It is to the point that my daughter is now scared to even be around her and cries anytime she comes close to her.

This behavior has been happening since we moved in about 6 months ago but comes in and goes.

My roommate disciplines her daughter by removing her from the room but she will just come back and do it again immediately after she walks away from her.

I monitor my daughter constantly when they are together to prevent this and I've spoken with my roommate about this multiple times and warned that if it continues we are moving out.

Besides moving what other advice is there for preventing my daughter from being bullied like this.

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Possible duplicate:… – mxyzplk Apr 23 '14 at 19:17
Also look at this question – Joe Apr 23 '14 at 19:18
Also advice in… though much of that involves the children spending less time together – Chrys Apr 24 '14 at 18:50

Sorry, I would move out. Bullies are quite distressing, but if you have them INSIDE your home, the result is you do not have a place to call home, a safe relaxing, comfortable place. Move out as soon as possible.

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The question Joe linked has your answer. In short, the cost of bullying needs to outweigh the benefits the other child gets. Help your daughter come up with strategies that will make bullying not worth it for the bully to continue in her behavior.

Doing that at 2 will be a bit harder, because their verbal repartee is not what it will be in a few years. And I do worry about teaching your child it's okay to fight fire with fire, because that might be hard to unwind later. But until you can move out, you do need to do something. I'm assuming that when you say you "monitor" the children, that you actively interfere when bullying behavior occurs. Do you also bring her mom in when it happens? Do you both try to make clear, as a united front, that her behavior is wrong?

Unfortunately, two is not known as an age of great wisdom and restraint. If you need to keep both girls separated entirely until you guys can move out, that might be your last resort.

My sympathies; the economy makes roommates sometimes a requirement to get by, but you can easily get caught in situations like this. Hang in there!

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