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I will be going on a road trip with my almost 3-year-old. He was born prematurely so he is not necessarily at the same level of other 3-year-old children yet. How can I keep him settled down and get him to cooperate on the trip from Indiana to Florida?

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Suggestions based on my experience:

  1. Drive at night. We did several similar length trips (Chicago-DC, Chicago-west of Denver) with a 2.5 year old, and the best luck we had was driving overnight. Leave at 3pm, arrive at 9am, or whatever, kids sleep 80% of the trip. They're happy, you're tired but hopefully have someone to help at the destination.

  2. If he's imaginative, then a couple of trains or cars or whatnot may be enough for a good portion of the trip. Mine was fine for a large portion of the awake part that way, and the one leg that he didn't cooperate in sleeping he was pretty good for most of it with it.

  3. iPad or similar (tablet/ipod/video player). Mine has figured out how to do basic things with it, and is amused by all sorts of games - even ones he doesn't truly understand. Fisher Price and other kids manufacturers have free games, and lots of apps that are just basically picture books (things like 'Airplanes' or 'Trains' with just pictures of airplanes or trains) are really interesting and easy enough to use even at that age. Audio books are also good on iPad/ipod/etc., especially if they're the familiar books. Audible.com and other outlets have good selections of childrens' audio books.

  4. Books, especially interactive ones (the big ones with buttons on the side for sounds, ones that read to you as you open them, etc.) As long as it is light, they can read them easily, and if they're books you've memorized, you can probably "read" them to them as well. Goodnight Moon for example I can read from memory, so I would just listen for page turns and hope I was in sync.

  5. ABC keyboards also work pretty well in cars- the kind that have a button for each letter and a switch that have them do different things, like play songs or say the letters or whatnot. That even works for much younger.

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I like Joe's answer, but will contribute a few more, also based on extended empirical studies.

Stuff to Bring

  • Lots of Paper and Crayons

    Buy a few coloring books, connect-the-dots templates, mazes, etc and a lot of spare paper and crayons. If that's one thing to remember, remember that one. May vary from kid to kid though. Also, read this thread with lots of links for free printable materials to prepare beforehand.

  • His Own Travel Kit

    A specific "travel kit" / "travel bag" where your kid decides what to take. Gets him involved and all happy to have his own "suitcase", to decide what to take, and to decide when to play with what.

  • Favorite Stuffed Pet, Blankie, Pacifier/Dummy, etc...

    Never, ever forget one of these, obviously.

  • Kiddy Tunes and Stories on CDs.

    You'll want to drive a knife through your eyeball after the 42th re-telling of any "whoever and the whatever" story, but he'll like it and be quiet. Except if he likes telling the story as well. In that case you're pretty screwed.

    I prefer the ones that come with a book as well, so they can follow the story. Pro-tip: prefer rather long stories. I have a CD with 3 stories that are about 4 minutes each. After 2hours of listening to it, the knife alternative sounds entertaining. But if you have a 30 or 40 minute story, then it's not as repetitive and unnerving. You'll still have nervous twitches everytime they'll break into song even long after the road trip is over though. It stays with you.

  • Smartphone, tablets, etc...

    Fine for playing videos as well, so if you have digitalized a few cartoons, you might want to transfer them to the phone, if he's old enough to not pause the video by mistake every 5 seconds (in which case the screaming reaction is probably counter-productive...).

  • Portable video players

    These are actually fairly cheap nowadays. I never thought I'd buy into that sort of stuff and thought this was kind of a luxury for self-entitled kids and parents who can't figure out how to keep their kids busy, but... it does buy definitely you some quiet time, and makes them happy. Make them pick their DVDs before you leave (you don't want 15minutes of crying because you forgot the one they want).

  • Toy Cameras

    Also relatively cheap now. They can be fun to have the kid take pictures of the scenery and feel like a road adventurer.

  • Toy Computers

    And similar things with lots of buttons and make lots of noise, and have lots of games. 3yo is a bit early, but that one is kind of a long-term investment you won't regret. We bought a cheap "notebook" for our kid when he was 1.5yo. Couldn't play the game, but liked to copy us and hear the sounds. Now at 4, and as the thing survived (surprisingly...) until now, he can play the games and still likes to take it with him. I'm not talking anything to technical or fancy, I mean a rather basic "computer"-like toy here. Something that just helps to learn the alphabet, has the kid count asteroids or find a number or letter, etc... Might be to advanced for him yet, but just the noise and copying you if you have computers at home will help.

  • Nourishments and Comfort Food

    Don't forget to pack proper food, some snacks, some drinks, etc...

Stuff To Do

A few additional recommendations:

  • Breaks

    Breaks are mandatory. Unfortunately, breaks with kids always take way longer than you'd like to and they very significantly increase your travel time:

    Baby Blues - 1998-07-02

    But they're worth it for your peace of mind and everybody's mood. Use the occasion to exercise, play with the kids, bathroom breaks, buy a super cheap toy so the novelty keeps them busy an extra hour or so (pro-tip: avoid toys that have red or blue lights... did that once during a night trip, and thought a police car was trailing me every time he'd turn it on... bad, BAD idea). Possibly even reload on cheap cartoon DVDs as well while you're there.

    Of course, scheduling breaks is kind of dark art that requires a voodoo priest or something. It just never works right for everybody.

    Baby Blues - 1998-06-30

  • Make it Comfortable

    Adjust the seat, bring a blanket, window shades, etc... Basically anything to make sure they're comfortable (especially if you adjust the air con for yourself in the front seats, which may feel very different in the back seats). Remember: a comfortable kid is a kid who has a greater chance of falling asleep :)

  • Novelty is on Your Side

    So keep it alive. If you buy more than one new toy/book/movie, before or during the trip, don't show them all at once. Release them as you go. Keep the novelty effect on your side.

  • Play along

    Not exactly ideal while driving, so keep it safe. But just counting (or pointing at, if he doesn't count yet) colored cars, trees, cows or whatever can keep him busy a while.

  • Drive at Night

    Like Joe said, there are perks. Maybe not the whole trip though (it's difficult, and you have less service in rest stops if needed, and it's potentially more dangerous), but at least a part of it. There's kind of a difficult spot with some kids though, when they get tired and cranky but before they fall asleep. That, and also they might not be the only ones feeling sleepy.

    Baby Blues - 1996-05-25

    Seriously, I don't think I've ever gone on a road trip where my significant other didn't nose dive during the first hour and then for a good portion of the trip. But usually so do the kids. :)

  • Check Your Car

    Not exactly directly relevant to your question, but just as a cautious reminder. Because think of being stranded on the side of the road waiting for help to arrive. Now think of that same situation with kids who are bored, hungry, and when you run out of nappies, spare clothes, and it gets cold.

  • Drive smoothly.

    Again: a comfortable kid is a kid who falls asleep! :)

Of course, if you have another person who can sit in the back and play with the kid, your life gets considerably easier (theirs, however, that's a different story... I remember the mommy crying more than the kid, on occasion :)) and you don't have to resort to attention-grabbing things like DVDs/smartphones that much.

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