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Our daughter recently decided she didn't want to sit down in the bath any more. We have no idea what triggered it, and she still loves baths and gets excited by the prospect of them.

She'll happily kneel so her bum is in the water but refuses to sit. Does anyone have any ideas how to encourage sitting. We've tried a bath pillow and bath mat as a cushion. Tried making the bath a bit different using bubbles (which she was terrified of). If we try to put her into the sitting position she just screams "out, out out" and tries climbing out the bath.

She's often kneeling for so long that when she eventually stands up she burts into tears - we assume because her knees are sore from kneeling on the hard surface / pins and needles or the like.

Any advice would be appreciated.

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We've been showering (rather than bathing) our daughter since she was about 24 months. If she wants to stand, let her stand, as long as you can get her properly clean.

My point is that I can't think of any particular reason to make her sit in the name of hygiene. Perhaps for safety, if she doesn't stand steadily on her own, but then I am usually holding her hand or shoulder so I can clean her properly anyway.

Also, on the off-chance that this may be some attention seeking behaviour (not necessarily the case, but not exactly unlikely), I gerneally find that ignoring it works best. This leads us to the same conclusion though, let her stand if she wants to, and use the shower head to get her nice and clean.

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Thanks for that. We've tried the shower, but she hates it. We just use her stacking cups to throw water over her, which is more or less the same thing. We've been pretty much ignoring it for a few weeks now and I guess we'll carry on doing so. :-) – Will Calderwood Mar 2 '14 at 20:34

I have found that my 2 year old won't sit when he has gas or has recently had a diaper rash-even a mild one. He doesn't like the way the bubbles feel (in the case of gas). I think it's obvious that it hurts to sit with a diaper rash. Since he gets diaper rash pretty frequently (he has super sensitive skin) and we have a "sit or get out" rule, we have to sometimes get him to lay in the tub (with less than the usual amount of water). He won't kneel, otherwise we'd do that. My kid is already swimming, though, so I feel comfortable letting him " practice" floating on his back (a huge milestone for little swimmers, by the way). Perhaps this is not the case with your daughter, in which case this solution might not work for you.

Another thought to consider is your daughter's build. I remember when I was little being very thin, and not being comfortable sitting on my rear- anywhere. Even with a cushion. I always sat on my feet, my hands, or knelt. If this is the case with your girl, there's nothing you can do, except encourage her to change positions periodically until she learns to do it automatically on her own.

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