My baby while playing had a deep cut in her left hand index finger. Her paed dressed her finger now and didn't administered any tetanus injection, as she had already given DPT some months back. Now, the problem is that she doesn't allow to re bandage her finger. If, we try forcefully she cry and shout so much that she find hard to breath.
When my son was about 15 mos old he had an incident with a treadmill (on my in-law's watch, a still sore subject presently) where his hand got stuck in it and a good portion of his palm's skin was burned off. It was grotesque, and VERY painful. My in laws did not seek treatment right away, and didn't clean the wound (there were bits of treadmill still stuck in it two days later when I came back from my business trip.) So, when I brought him to the ER, they had to remove the layer of infected skin, remove dirt & debris, and then apply a burn treatment. It was horrific, and as @Marc experienced, he had to be restrained.
I had to change the dressing once a week, or, as often as it got dirty, wet, or removed by a baby who doesn't want a bandage getting in the way of putting Legos in his mouth ( ;-p ) which ended up being every day. He had NO SKIN on his entire hand. Here's our method:
If you can keep your cool, she will eventually take your cues and will relax, somewhat. Kids trust their parents, if you trust in yourself.
I did this on my kitchen table, baby laying on a towel, helper using appropriate amount of body weight to hold down torso, legs, and unaffected arm. Helper usually held baby's hand between his chest and helper's, to give him something to squeeze. We made sure his face was not covered, and he could see what was happening. I think it's better for them to see what's being done. It teaches them to deal with pain in a healthy way, and to trust you.
In between dressings, try to gently, nonchalantly touch and handle the injured hand. This desensitizes her so she won't associate you touching her hand with pain. Encourage her to use her hand (now that she's all bandaged up and well protected!) This was especially important for us, since our baby's mobility was at risk, but it's good advice anyway-to help her forget the trauma. If you get to a point where she doesn't fight so much, try touching her palm and talking to her while you are bandaging to get her to realize you aren't hurting her. She may calm down. Practice getting closer and closer to the cut.
Above all: Don't worry. She won't remember this on her wedding day.
(FYI: my boy's palm is totally, 100% recovered and fully functional, and now sits calmly for immunizations as a result of the trust we now have, and the "countdown to all done")
It hurts and she's scared, both by the impending pain and the memory of the injury. At eighteen months, my youngest fell against a brick planter and cut her face just across her eyebrow. In order to stitch her, the pediatrician had to wrap her to a board to hold her still and keep her hands down. That was a traumatic event - for years she was claustrophobic, and she remembers it today, thirteen years later. But what could we have done differently? It was traumatic for me, but looking back, it had to be done.
I think you're in a similar position. An index finger on a toddler or baby is so important, so easy to get infected, that you have to know it's healing. You have to do what needs to be done. You can try to distract her, but she's a baby, a learning machine, and that won't work twice if it works once.
Parenting isn't about the fun stuff. It's about handling the problems, and I feel for you. It's gut-wrenching for me to remember. I wish I has something good and helpful to say.
We have to do some pretty painful things to my nine year-old daughter with cerebral palsy fairly regularly. It's just part of being a parent, and unfortunately, there isn't a good way to make it pleasant for your child. The best you can do is get it over with as fast as possible. Some things to keep in mind: