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I feel incredibly stupid and awful about this, but a while ago I jokingly referred to my daughters' poo (in her nappy, not in the toilet) as a monster (because it was so big). I think I have now given her a fear of pooping and having her diaper changed. I need to start toilet training but think I have really set her back now. She now only poos every 2-3 days and tries to avoid diaper changes. I am going to start talking about how nice her poos are and praise her but has anyone else found something useful in this situation?

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marked as duplicate by balanced mama, Beofett Dec 17 '13 at 13:22

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Welcome to the community and Thank You. These related questions may be useful to you. Here is one about deciding if your child is ready to toilet train, parenting.stackexchange.com/q/1193/2876 and parenting.stackexchange.com/questions/8301/…. The second one is very close to your situation - though it sounds as though it might be more extreme, the answers are probably particularly relevant. Because of this, I'm flagging your question as a duplicate as we try to keep super similar questions to a minimum. –  balanced mama Dec 16 '13 at 23:40
    
I agree that there's already an answer that sounds like it covers exactly what you're asking about, including negative words about feces triggering the behavior (take comfort that this is pretty common, and not a major problem; you don't need to beat yourself up about this!). –  Beofett Dec 17 '13 at 13:22

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I did the same with my boy once. We have a Mickey Mouse phone with a demo button and it starts moving and making sounds. I was holding my boy and made a jerking movement, to surprise him or so with a mind set of "oh geez, what is this all the sudden"...

What was I thinking, so stupid... I instantly made him afraid. And it didn't go away by just putting the think in front of him, forcing him to face it, to make him see there is nothing to fear. That totally didn't work at all.

What did work was, holding him on my arm and walking by the Mickey Mouse, not giving it attention as we passed. Or just randomly turning it on, not looking at it anymore. Or all sorts of stuff like that, repeatedly until he decided for himself, that it wasn't anything to be afraid of.

My point is, do not put to much focus on it. It is not something we as adults have to deal with, it is just something we do. Try to see/feel it like that and she will notice your feelings. That is what she did in the first place that made her fear her poo now. The reverse works the same, albeit it takes a bit longer when the fear was already set first.

I would not potty train her for few days until she poos on her normal regular intervals. Then just start over again, not giving it to much attention.

You didn't do it on purpose, and you learned from it (otherwise you wouldn't be knowing what caused it). She will get over it faster then you think. The more she can trust your feelings in it, the faster it is over. I think.

Goodluck.

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