My husband died 10 years ago. My children were aged 9, 3 and 1 at the time. I was always (and still am) probably too extreme in my stance on relationships with men, since my husband's death.
I had observed many single mothers (and single father's, but as I am a woman, I focused on my peers), having de facto relationships, that would fail, and then often repeating the same process with another person.
Although I could see my children had the need for a father figure, I was not keen to introduce them to anyone unless I was as certain as I could be that they would be a permanent fixture. I didn't want them to go through any more unnecessary loss due to my poor judgement (in this case, possible poor partner choice).
There was also a lot of events where a step (whether by marriage or de facto) parent would harm (even murder) their step child. Obviously this is rare, but it would make the news headlines here and I would get really paranoid.
The other thing I didn't want, is my children to meet a string of men and as adults piece it together, oh mum must've slept with those men, how gross.
Now these are my thoughts and may not be helpful, as I have raised my children alone, rather than risk introducing someone.
My question is this:
How does multiple partners being introduced to children of single parent families, affect the children?