My step-son keeps comparing me to his biological father, and I don't know why.
I've been in a relationship with this woman for almost 3 years. She has been married previously and has a 6 year old son. I have a great relationship with her son. He loves me so much and trusts me a lot; there hasn't been any conflict between him and me.
I feel, however, his biological father is irresponsible:
- He left his Mom when she got pregnant and had to stay home while he had to work and provide.
- He is about 29 years old now and he is still in school
- He doesn't have a car and he lost his driving license due to DUI several times.
- He lives in his gf's apartment and works in a restaurant.
In contrast, I'm from a wealthy educated family, I am educated and have a great job with great pay, and I feel I don't have a lot in common with my step son's biological father.
My step son sees me as his role model; he always tells people that he wants to be like me when he grows up, and he once told me that his dad is smart but I'm smarter than his dad.
But there is something that he often brings up and I don't understand why: His dad is 6'4" and I'm 6'2" and he often tells me that his dad is a little taller than me. I always act cool about it and acknowledge that, but he keeps telling me that every couple of weeks, anyway. Why is he doing that? Sometimes he says that his dad has more hair than me too. I'm cool with the facts but when it happens frequently, it kind of gets on my nerves.
I once talked to him about his comments, and he said he understands but sometimes he brings it up again. Any idea why he does that? As well as the comparisons, he often acts protective of his dad when his dad makes a mistake and his Mom calls it out.
N.B: I never talk down about his dad in front of him. Ever. I always shield him from the frequent fights his mom and dad have. I always say that their fights doesn't make them bad people, I say to him that 'it's just your dad and your mom can't get along and that's why they aren't together'. I've never told him that his dad is a loser, I actually tell him that he is lucky to have two dads so he can learn different things from both.
Why is my step son saying the things he is, and comparing me to his biological father?