My problem is I have almost zero free time. I have two young kids 3 and 2 when they where young my wife didn't want to let them fall asleep by themselves so now I take the 2 year old and my wife takes the 3 year old and we spend 1-2 hours per night putting them to sleep. Then after they are asleep my wife wants me to spend time with her watching mindless reality TV. Most of the time she passes out on the couch.
I'm asking when should have have some time not to watch TV but to take care of the things that are important to me. I need some time when I'm not exhausted to work on things around the house or doing some strategic planing for the group that I manage at work. We both work and I'm expected to take care of the dishes and do 90% of the meal planning (shopping,cooking,cleanup) To top it off my wife is a very picky eater and will only pick something to eat that day. I can't do any advanced planning. I also bring in 3 times the income she does and I'm required to be at work for 1.5 hours more per day than she is.
I don't know what a normal evening with young kids would be like ? After the kids are sleeping my wife is exhausted and her ideal evening is me rubbing her to sleep on the couch. Then I have to rub her to sleep again when we go up to bed. I really thing this is not balanced. I need some amount of time to just decompress. Also, each weekend I wake up with the kids and she sleeps in I'm just tired at this point.
I'm curious what the average evening is like ?